Therapy for Gay Men in Healthcare
You care for others. But who cares for you?
Josh Davis, LMHC · In-person in Fort Lauderdale · Online in Miami and throughout Florida
You’re the person people turn to when things get hard. You stay calm, make decisions, and keep showing up. But when your shift ends, your last patient leaves, or you finally close your laptop, there isn't much left for you.
I offer therapy for gay doctors, dentists, nurses, therapists, and other gay and queer healthcare professionals who are tired of holding everything together and ready for a space where they can be human, too.
Being good at your job doesn’t mean you’re doing okay
You can love your work and feel exhausted by it. You can be grateful for your career and wonder how much longer you can keep going like this.
Maybe you pick up the extra shift, squeeze in another client, or answer one more message because you'd rather be tired than say no. You replay conversations, worry you missed something, and feel guilty resting when someone else needs help.
And then someone suggests self-care. Great. Another thing to do that you don't have time or energy for.
You may know what you need and still struggle to let yourself have it.
Long hours, understaffing, productivity demands, and working within systems that don’t give people the care they need can take a real toll. In therapy, we can make room for that frustration without turning a workplace problem into a personal failure.
There’s also the part about being gay at work
Maybe you feel comfortable being out with colleagues but hesitate when a patient asks about your wife. Maybe you’re deciding whether to correct an assumption, mention your boyfriend, or let a comment slide because you don’t have the energy for another conversation.
You might encounter bias, feel pressure to prove yourself, be the funny one, or find yourself editing your voice, mannerisms, or personal life to seem more “professional.” Even in an affirming workplace, being the only openly gay person on the team can feel lonely.
You can care about the person in front of you and can feel hurt or angry about how they treat you. Both can be true.
You deserve somewhere you don’t have to explain, defend, or minimize that experience. We can explore what feels right for you, including when you want to speak up, when you want privacy, and what support you need so you can feel secure and confident in your carreer and in your personal life.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- You’re dependable at work but feel drained, irritable, or checked out at home.
- You keep overworking, even when you’ve promised yourself or a loved one you’ll slow down.
- A difficult interaction or clinical decision follows you long after the workday ends.
- You feel responsible for everyone’s needs and struggle to say no.
- Your job gives you a sense of worth, but you’re unsure who you are outside it.
- You carry grief, helplessness, or anger about what you witness in your work.
- You’re there for patients, clients, and coworkers, but rarely let anyone be there for you.
- You want connection with your partner or friends, yet feel left out, withdrawn, or too tired to engage.
You don’t have to check every box. And you don’t have to wait until you fall apart to want support.
When being needed starts to feel like being worthy
For some gay men, being the capable one started long before their career. Maybe you learned to be helpful, ambitious, or easy to be around while keeping other parts of yourself out of sight.
A career built around caring can be meaningful. It can also become another place where you feel you have to earn your right to rest, need something, or take up space.
That won’t be everyone’s story. We’ll get curious about yours, including what you love about your work and what it costs you to keep doing it this way.
We may explore perfectionism and pressure, shame and self-worth, or the impact of earlier relational experiences. The aim is to create more room for choice in how you care for others and yourself.
A space where you don’t have to be the expert
Hey, I’m Josh. I’m a gay therapist who works with career-driven gay men and their relationships. As a therapist myself, I know the helping role can be deeply meaningful. I also know that understanding something professionally doesn’t make you immune to struggling with it personally.
You don’t have to bring the polished version of yourself here. If you’re a therapist, you don’t have to give me a beautifully organized explanation of your patterns. If you’re a doctor or nurse, you don’t have to keep it together for my benefit. I want you to show up as you are.
My Approach
My work is grounded in NARM, the NeuroAffective Relational Model, a present-focused, neurobiological informed approach to complex and relational trauma. Together, we pay attention to what happens when you slow down, notice a need, set a limit, or let someone care about you.
We can work toward boundaries you can actually hold, more room for rest and connection, and a sense of worth that isn’t tied entirely to what you do for others. We’ll also make space for the parts of your work you want to protect.
A few questions you might have
Do you work with therapists and other healthcare professionals?
Yes. This space is for gay men across healthcare, including physicians, nurses, therapists, counselors, social workers, and other helping professionals. We’ll talk about your particular experience rather than assume everyone in healthcare faces the same challenges.
Do I need to be burned out or have a trauma history?
No. You might be feeling overwhelmed, struggling in your relationships, or simply wanting a space that’s yours. We don’t have to label your experience before we can talk about it.
What about privacy and knowing people in the same professional community?
We can discuss confidentiality, its limits, and concerns about overlapping professional circles before you decide to begin. You can describe work experiences without sharing identifying details about patients or clients.
Where do sessions happen, and what do they cost?
I offer in-person sessions in Fort Lauderdale and online sessions for clients physically located in Florida, including Miami. My practice is private pay. You can find current session options and fees on my rates page. We can discuss availability and fit during a free consultation.
You deserve care before you have nothing left to give
You can be committed to your work and want a life that has room for you, too.
Let’s talk about what’s been weighing on you and whether working together feels like a good fit.