Therapy for Breakups And Grief
When a relationship ends, it can feel like losing more than just a person, it can feel like losing yourself. You’re allowed to grieve what happened and start to find your footing again.
Josh Davis, LMHC · Fort Lauderdale & Virtual Throughout Florida, Vermont & Delaware
You knew it was going to hurt. You just didn't know it would hurt like this.
Let’s be real, Grieving sucks…
Maybe you saw it coming. Maybe you didn't. Either way, something that felt like a core part of your life is gone, and the world looks different now.
You're doing your best to keep moving forward, going to work, showing up for people who need you, pretending you're okay when you're not. Underneath it all, the grief is still there. It’s so lonely..
The replaying. The "what ifs." The 2am thoughts that don't let you rest.
This kind of pain isn't something you can just think your way through, and it's not something you have to carry alone.
What You Might Be Experiencing:
Heartbreak doesn't always look the way people expect it to.
Feeling numb and lost.
Obsessively replaying the relationship (what you did, what they did, what you could have done differently)
Feeling okay one moment and devastated the next, and not understanding why
Struggling to stop checking their social media, their location, or your messages
Wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again
Grief that seems disproportionate (especially if others keep saying "you'll get over it")
Questioning your own perception of the relationship: was it even real? Did they ever really care?
An anxious pull toward going back, even when you know it wasn't right
Feeling untethered (like your whole sense of self was tied up in this person or this relationship)
Shame about how badly you're struggling with something that's "supposed to be" normal
Fear that this loss confirms something you've always believed about yourself or about relationships
Want to move past it as quickly as possible and “be ok”
All of this makes sense. And none of it means something is wrong with you.
Loss isn't just about the person you lost.
When a relationship ends, whether it was a long-term partner, a recent situationship, or someone you loved who was never really "yours", the grief can be complicated and disorienting in ways that go deeper than just missing them.
Sometimes you're mourning the version of the future you could have had together. Sometimes you're grieving the person you were when you were with them. And sometimes you're realizing that this loss has stirred up something much older, patterns from earlier in your life about connection, safety, and whether you're worthy of love.
Grieving is about how you relate to yourself and your loved one.
This is where therapy can go beyond just "processing the breakup." When we slow down and look at what's actually happening underneath the pain, we can start to understand it, and shift it, in a more lasting way.
What We Can Work On Together
You don't have to keep sitting with this alone.
Making sense of what happened and processing the grief without getting stuck in it
Understanding the relationship patterns that keep showing up — and why
Untangling your sense of self from the relationship so you can start to feel like you again
Working through shame, self-blame, or the relentless inner critic
Exploring how earlier experiences with loss or abandonment are showing up now
Learning to sit with difficult feelings without being overwhelmed or checked out
Rebuilding a sense of security within yourself — not just in relationships
Getting clearer on what you actually want and need from relationships going forward
Releasing the pull to return to something that wasn't working
Finding your footing in what comes next
My Approach
This isn't about teaching you how to "get over it faster."
The way I work is rooted in the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM), a complex trauma-informed approach that looks at the deeper patterns shaping how we connect, lose, and grieve. It's a mind-body model, which means we're not just talking through what happened, we're paying attention to how it's living in you, what gets activated in your body, and what that's trying to tell you.
Instead of analyzing the past to death or trying to reframe your thoughts, we slow things down and look at what's actually happening right now. What comes up when you think about them. What you notice in your body. What the pain is really about.
This kind of work doesn't just help you move on from this relationship — it helps you understand something deeper about yourself and your relational patterns, so you can show up differently in the ones that come next.
Hey, I'm Josh.
I'm a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based in Fort Lauderdale, and I specialize in complex trauma and the relational wounds that shape how we connect with ourselves and the people we love.
My work is relational, present, and genuinely human. We might go to some heavy places, but we don't have to make it heavier than it needs to be.
Breakups and loss are something I take seriously in this work, because I know what is like to lose someone you love. Grief, can be a window into something deeper: into how you learned to love, what you learned about being left, and what you believe you deserve. That's the work we do with grief.
You don't have to keep carrying this alone.
Reach out to schedule a free consultation call. We'll talk about what's going on, what you're looking for, and see if we're a good fit.
Virtual sessions available throughout Florida, Vermont, and Delaware.