Services
Individual Sessions
You’ve spent so much of your life wondering if you’re too much or not good enough. You hold it all together, show up for others, and try to be who people expect you to be. You’re successful on paper, but underneath, there’s a part of you that feels like a fraud. You question your worth, your needs, and feel you can’t be fully you. You may long for connection but feel anxious, ashamed, or shut down in relationships. You might be stuck in patterns you don’t fully understand but can’t seem to break.
For many queer individuals, especially those with complex trauma, ADHD, or a history of not belonging, we learn to shame ourselves and make ourselves small to survive. That survival strategy once kept us safe, but over time, it can disconnect us from our needs, emotions, and aliveness. You may find yourself trapped in self-doubt, emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, or the belief that you have to abandon parts of yourself to be loved.
In our individual work together, we make space for a different experience. Using a relational, body-centered, trauma-informed approach (NARM) and other therapy modalities, I help you reconnect to your authentic self—not the one shaped by shame, but the one rooted in resilience and aliveness. Sessions are a space where you don’t have to hold it all together. We’ll work through what’s getting in the way of connection, clarity, and confidence—so you can feel more at home in your body, your identity, and in your relationships.
Relationship Therapy
Relationships are where we feel our deepest joy and sometimes our deepest pain. You might feel stuck in patterns of miscommunication, disconnection, or resentment. Maybe you’re navigating trust issues, emotional distance, conflict, or unmet needs that feel impossible to express. Or maybe you love each other deeply, but something in the connection feels off. You might be exploring a new stage of your relationship and looking for guidance and support.
As a relationship therapist, I help people explore what’s getting in the way of connection—whether that’s with themselves or with others. This work isn’t just for romantic couples. It can include friends, family, or chosen family. And it's especially powerful for queer individuals and partnerships navigating the complexities of identity, intimacy, and belonging in a heteronormative world.
I work with all types of dynamics: monogamous couples, open relationships, LGBTQIA+ partnerships, families, and polyamorous or non-traditional relationships. My approach is warm, affirming, collaborative, and non-judgmental. Together, we’ll explore what’s getting in the way and help you build a relationship where each person feels safe, valued, and authentic.
Whether you’re longing for more intimacy, trying to repair trust, or hoping to deepen communication, relationship therapy is a space to reconnect—with each other and with yourself.
Have questions? Here are some common questions when starting relationship therapy.
Intensives
Weekly therapy is valuable, but sometimes, it’s just not enough. The pace can feel slow, scheduling can be tricky with work or kids, and when change doesn’t come quickly, it’s easy to lose motivation or momentum.
That’s where relationship intensives come in.
I offer in-person weekend intensives for couples and partnerships who want focused, accelerated support. These extended sessions are available in 6, 9, or 12-hour formats, depending on the needs of your relationship. Over the course of a weekend, you and your partner(s) or loved ones become the center of the work—without distractions, time constraints, or interruptions.
Whether you’re feeling disconnected, facing a major transition, or simply want to deepen your connection, a relationship intensive offers a deep dive into healing, clarity, and communication.
Looking for more? Here are some common questions I get asked about intensives
Techniques I Use in Sessions
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The NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) is an advanced therapy for individuals with complex or developmental trauma. Unlike traditional trauma treatments, NARM focuses on how survival strategies developed in response to trauma affect the present, without requiring clients to relive past experiences. Using mindful awareness and self-inquiry, NARM helps clients explore how attachment patterns and adaptive behaviors contribute to feeling stuck, promoting healing in the present moment.
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Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) combines standard cognitive-behavioral techniques for emotion regulation with concepts of distress tolerance, acceptance, and mindful awareness. DBT is not only a skill-based treatment but also a philosophy that helps individuals avoid getting stuck in extremes or black-and-white thinking. Dialectics examine opposing forces and the tension between them, teaching individuals to hold both perspectives simultaneously. DBT is a behavioral therapy designed to help people with disruptive behaviors become more regulated by acquiring skills in mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal skills.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples is all about strengthening the emotional bond between partners. Rooted in attachment theory, EFT helps couples recognize and shift out of negative patterns that create distance and disconnection. By exploring the deeper emotions and needs beneath conflicts, partners learn to turn toward each other with more openness, trust, and responsiveness. Instead of getting stuck in the same arguments, EFT fosters a deeper sense of safety and connection, helping couples feel more secure, seen, and loved in their relationship.
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The Gottman Method is a structured, research-based approach to couples therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, pioneers in relationship science. It helps couples identify and build on effective patterns while developing skills to strengthen emotional connection, communication, and trust. Grounded in the Sound Relationship House theory, the method teaches practical tools to manage conflict, deepen intimacy, and foster lasting partnership.
Intimacy Heals Complex Trauma
When we grow up in an invalidating, mis-attuned, or abusive environment, relationships can feel threatening. Being your authentic self can feel dangerous or exposed. This is often the result of complex trauma, which involves experiencing multiple traumatic events over an extended period of time within the context of relationships.
I am aligned with Terry Real’s approach to couples therapy. Terry Real, a renowned therapist and author, emphasizes the profound healing potential of intimacy in addressing complex trauma within the context of couples therapy. He underscores the idea that genuine connection and intimacy within relationships can play a crucial role in healing the deep wounds associated with attachment failures and complex trauma. By fostering a secure and supportive relational environment, individuals can experience a sense of safety and vulnerability, allowing them to move through past traumas and create the life they desire.